3/2/2017 |
It is official now- my wife has left me. |
3/2/2017 |
Today is one of the top five worst days of my life. |
3/2/2017 |
House is very, very empty this morning. |
3/2/2017 |
She came back to get her things, accompanied by the police. She really
isn't coming back. My life is about to change again dramatically. |
3/2/2017 |
Wow. I am really all alone now. I don't know what to do. |
3/2/2017 |
She won't even talk to me. Just... gone. And with that I am scrambling to
grab ahold of something to keep me going. |
3/2/2017 |
I am rambling too much. Sorry. |
3/2/2017 |
This was unexpected,
What do I do now?
Could we start again please?
---Jesus Christ Superstar |
3/3/2017 |
Holding on.... |
3/3/2017 |
Morning, everybody. |
3/3/2017 |
Today might be a good day to take up alcoholism. I've heard that hard
lemonade and hard cherry cola are pretty good. |
3/3/2017 |
Sadness is creeping up on me. I have got to find something to do. |
3/3/2017 |
20 years this month... our first date was 20 years ago this month.
Married for 18 years. |
3/3/2017 |
Really should get out and do something today, but damned if I even want
to leave the house. |
3/3/2017 |
I wonder how much soda I would have to order to get the pizza place to
deliver it. |
3/3/2017 |
Emptiness. A new feeling which I don't like. |
3/3/2017 |
Shit this day has been bad.... |
3/4/2017 |
My thanks to the Baptists that told my wife she had "biblical
grounds" to leave me; you never talked to me about it, but you know,
whatever |
3/4/2017 |
Good night, all |
3/4/2017 |
Sad today. |
3/5/2017 |
Watching wrestling and Walking Dead tonight. I am used to my wife sitting
at the table, not watching, doing her coloring and puzzles. |
3/5/2017 |
It is so quiet in this house now. |
3/5/2017 |
I wasn't a perfect husband, but damn I tried my hardest. Guess my best
wasn't good enough. |
3/5/2017 |
Wondering why. |
3/5/2017 |
Damn this is difficult |
3/6/2017 |
I'm sorry I'm so needy. But this was not s supposed to happen. |
3/6/2017 |
I keep checking my phone for texts and messages from her, I check
Facebook for PMs from her... nothing. |
3/6/2017 |
I look out the window two dozen times a day, hoping she will come home...
nothing. |
3/6/2017 |
I wait for her cutesy comments while I am watching wrestling... nothing. |
3/6/2017 |
I'm lost. |
3/7/2017 |
Day 6 of the separation- no texts, no calls, nothing. I look out the
window constantly- nothing. She just disappeared. |
3/7/2017 |
This is just a disastrous mess with no way out. I am very sad. |
3/7/2017 |
*sigh* |
3/7/2017 |
Alone for seven days now. Still haven't heard from her. Sad and
depressed. Constantly looking outside, hoping a car comes by with her in it. |
3/7/2017 |
I can't take any steps forward until I know whether she is coming back or
not. And she isn't telling me. |
3/8/2017 |
Some days I have to find the little things to keep myself going. Have an
interview tomorrow, not too confident, but it's something. |
3/8/2017 |
Sorry, but this hurts. Badly. |
3/8/2017 |
Getting ready to just give up. |
3/9/2017 |
I don't give a shit anymore. |
3/11/2017 |
Not every man is an ignorant fool. Just thought I'd throw that out
there..... |
3/12/2017 |
All the positive thoughts in the world ain't bringing her back. She's
gone. #depressed |
3/13/2017 |
Whether you believe in prayer, good thoughts, or just toking while
listening to the Dead, I will take it. I need it. Desperately. |
3/13/2017 |
I am sinking like a stone. This is not good. |
3/13/2017 |
Yes, I am in touch with counselling services, and the mental health
hotline checks in with me nightly. |
3/13/2017 |
It still sucks to lose everything that ever meant anything to you. That's
where I'm at. |
3/13/2017 |
Sorry to bum you out. Back to funny memes and reality show talk. |
3/14/2017 |
It's that time of the night- time to weep. |
3/14/2017 |
I have to actually leave the house tomorrow. I suppose that's a good
thing. |
3/14/2017 |
hoping that someday I can stop being sad. |
3/14/2017 |
It is unofficially over. She has notified human services that she is no
longer living in the household, she has taken her money... |
3/14/2017 |
She has cut off all communication with me. I have no way of trying to
work this out because I can't even talk to her.... |
3/14/2017 |
My life is crushed. I never thought this would happen. |
3/14/2017 |
I have been sad before, and depressed before, but this is a whole new
level of pain. |
3/14/2017 |
I'm so tired of being
here
Suppressed by all my childish fears...
Your presence still lingers here
And it won't leave me alone
--Evanescence |
3/15/2017 |
Almost invited the Mormons and Jehovah's Witnesses over just to have some
company. I really need to get out of the house. |
3/15/2017 |
Got a call from Matt's home, his behaviors are increasing again and they
want to increase his meds. I wish I could take care of him here.... |
3/15/2017 |
We have reached that time of the night when I get sad and weep. Made
worse by the fact that my son isn't doing well and I can't help. :( |
3/15/2017 |
To have someone that you love make the choice to walk away- that sucks.
Badly. |
3/15/2017 |
Damn it! |
3/15/2017 |
I keep looking out the window hoping that she will come back. Can't
decide if that is faith or stupidity. |
3/15/2017 |
I feel freaking hopeless. |
3/16/2017 |
I'm so sad right now. Sorry, but social media is my only connection to
people right now. I tweet what I am feeling. |
3/16/2017 |
It is very hard to be alone. To have your kids gone and the love of your
life choosing to be apart from you. |
3/16/2017 |
When my wife was here I could see her silly cat pictures she would post
on Facebook, and hear about the kids stories she was writing. |
3/16/2017 |
Now... not a damn thing. It is very quiet in this house. I am living
alone in a three-bedroom house. |
3/16/2017 |
The desperation settles in like a thick fog. I hear people telling me
that it gets better. It is hard to believe. |
3/16/2017 |
I am going to church on Sunday, even though I have been avoiding it. I
can't pretend to be happy and put on that happy mask. Not any more. |
3/16/2017 |
OK, Sean, you can quit looking out the window for her. She ain't coming
home. Is it faith, or stupidity? I'm not sure. |
3/16/2017 |
Jesus, eHarmony, the corpse isn't even cold yet, quit promoting your
services in my timeline |
3/17/2017 |
Something missing from this finger.... Took some effort to carve it off
my finger. Not sure what to do with it. |
3/17/2017 |
There comes a time every night when the loneliness and sadness descends
like a fog... this is that time. |
3/19/2017 |
Today is not a good day. |
3/19/2017 |
There are good days, and then there are days when the loneliness seems
like it will never end. |
3/19/2017 |
There are good days, and then there are days when you wish you knew what
happened so you could fix it and welcome her home. |
3/19/2017 |
There are good days, and then there are days when the loneliness just
gnaws a hole in your soul. |
3/19/2017 |
I don't hate her. I want her to come home. But the longer she is gone the
less likely that seems. |
3/19/2017 |
Keep in mind that in the past year both of my children and my wife have
left my house. Thrice as hard. |
3/21/2017 |
Today is bittersweet... the 20th anniversary of my first date with Laura.
Not the way I would like to have commemorated it. |
3/21/2017 |
Drove a total of three hours for a one hour meeting. |
3/22/2017 |
You think you're OK after your ex leaves, but some days... BAM! The grief
hits you like a ton of bricks. |
3/22/2017 |
Damn it, her parents and some of her friends know where she is. Why won't
she talk to me? #Sad |
3/22/2017 |
Here tweets a broken, broken man :( |
3/23/2017 |
Got my answer tonight. I don't like it, shed a lot of tears over it, but
at least I know. |
3/24/2017 |
God this hurts today. |
3/24/2017 |
I can't give up. I can't give up. I can't give up. |
3/24/2017 |
I want to give up. But I can't. |
3/25/2017 |
It's a hard thing when someone you've been with for 20 years leaves. Your
lives are intertwined for that much time, pain is inevitable. |
3/25/2017 |
You have to figure out who you are apart from that person. |
3/25/2017 |
"Our" belongings, resources, etc. suddenly have to be separated
into "his" and "hers". A division that isn't always easy. |
3/25/2017 |
25 days into this separation. I still cry at least once a day. Part of
that is the not knowing- could she possibly come back? |
3/25/2017 |
And if she comes back, how can things ever be the same? I don't think
they can. I am willing to take responsibility for my faults, though. |
3/25/2017 |
Damn it. |
3/27/2017 |
Well what do you know? I didn't cry today! |
3/27/2017 |
Well, I didn't have any depressive episodes today. So that's a plus. |
3/27/2017 |
Some days are good, some days are sad.... |
3/28/2017 |
Thinking about crashing weddings so I can be that one guy who raises his
hand when they ask if anyone has any objections. |
3/29/2017 |
Missing my kids today really bad:( |
3/30/2017 |
There are days when I feel ok, and days when I wonder if I will ever be
ok again. |
3/30/2017 |
I am awake when I should be asleep, looking at pictures, thinking of
happier times. |
3/30/2017 |
Once again I ask, if you believe in prayer, good thoughts or whatever,
I'll take it. I need some hope. |
3/30/2017 |
Give me hope, give me
hope
That emptiness brings fullness
And loss of love brings wholeness to us all
---Indigo Girls |
3/31/2017 |
I am constantly checking my email and Facebook for messages from my wife.
I either have a lot of faith or I am just really stupid. |
3/31/2017 |
Finally started cleaning up around here, boxing up her things, throwing
away odd scraps of paper with her doodles on it... |
3/31/2017 |
Time to face the facts... she's gone. Been gone for a month now. Ain't no
April Fools joke. |
3/31/2017 |
Sad today |
4/1/2017 |
Having dreams about falling in love. Haven't had those since before I got
married. I hate them because I wake up and realize the reality. |
4/1/2017 |
Going to listen to John Mayer on the way to church today. |
4/2/2017 |
I have to resist the urge, when people post engagement photos, to reply
in all caps "DON'T DO IT!!!" |
4/2/2017 |
Massively depressed today. |
4/2/2017 |
It is difficult, when you go on an errand and then come home, to realize
that the house is empty, and will continue to be. |
4/2/2017 |
No more silly dog pictures on her timeline, no more hearing about her
latest ideas for children's stories, just... no more. |
4/2/2017 |
No hugs when I need them, no long talks into the night, no person
physically there that understands how much I miss my children. |
4/2/2017 |
People are dealing with more tragic things than I am. I get that. But the
emptiness still remains. One of the difficult things to understand |
4/2/2017 |
I may say too much on social media, but I don't say everything. There are
other things going on that have me in a funk and make life hard. |
4/2/2017 |
So if you think I just talk too much about it, well, online is all I
have. I don't have anyone in the area to talk with. You folks are it. |
4/2/2017 |
If you put me on mute, I get it. May not like it, but I get it. But at
least hold some good thoughts out there for me. |
4/2/2017 |
OK, done whining. For now :) |
4/2/2017 |
Why? What did I do? Why won't she have anything to do with me? These are
the questions that haunt me every day since she left. |
4/2/2017 |
And there may never be an answer. In the meantime my heart aches. An
emptiness that may never get better. |
4/2/2017 |
I feel like I am at the end of the end of the rope. And there is no soft
landing place. |
4/2/2017 |
Sorry for flooding your timeline. I keep on typing t o keep my mind off
other things. |
4/3/2017 |
"Gut-wrenching sobs." Found out what that phrase means last
night. |
4/4/2017 |
Somebody hit Matt tonight, so they had to call me about it, even though
it was barely anything. But I still wish a certain someone was here. |
4/4/2017 |
Some days are good, and then there was yesterday. Wept so hard I started
throwing up. This is not an easy process by any means. |
4/4/2017 |
Thank you for your patience with me as I work through this. |
4/4/2017 |
Someone recently told me online- "don't worry, you'll meet another
woman". Way too soon for that kind of talk. The corpse isn't cold yet. |
4/4/2017 |
You can't turn 20 years of emotions on and off like a faucet. |
4/5/2017 |
Keeping weird hours this week, ever since Monday's emotional meltdown.
Staying up till two, sleeping late and then napping again.... |
4/5/2017 |
... trying to sleep regular hours but just can't. |
4/5/2017 |
I can't stand this shit anymore. |
4/5/2017 |
Over a month now and no word from her. I'm so tired of being alone … |
4/6/2017 |
Gonna take my pills and go to sleep now. |
4/6/2017 |
OK, I have to clear something up since I got several messages about this.
When I said "take my pills and go to sleep", I meant (cont.)... |
4/6/2017 |
...prescribed doses of psych meds. If I was going to commit suicide, the
last thing I would do would be to announce it on social media. |
4/6/2017 |
So, with that said, I am going to bed. |
4/7/2017 |
Grief is funny, hits you when you least expect it. Had a good day today,
until Hawaii Five-O came on, which we always watched together. |
4/7/2017 |
Oh, I miss you Laura. |
4/7/2017 |
I feel very lost today. No kids, no wife, hell, even the Jehovah's
Witnesses passed my house by today. |
4/7/2017 |
Just don't know what to do to be happy anymore. |
4/7/2017 |
sigh |
4/7/2017 |
life hurts |
4/7/2017 |
life just fucking sucks. |
4/7/2017 |
help |
4/9/2017 |
Decided at the last minute to drive to Canton to see my daughter. Then
I'm going to Golden Corral to feed my face just because I want to. |
4/9/2017 |
I've never been thankful for autism. But I am thankful that I don't have
to explain to the kids why mom and dad aren't together. |
4/10/2017 |
I am torn between wanting to go on for the sake of my kids, and not
wanting to go on because my wife left. I am very sad today. |
4/10/2017 |
Weeping hard today. Going to see my son tomorrow, I hope that helps. |
4/10/2017 |
You think you're finally getting past something, a nd then BAM! It socks
you in the face. |
4/10/2017 |
I want her to come back. She's not coming back. I am so sad. And tired of
being sad. |
4/10/2017 |
Just got some cheering up from a friend. Thank you.
((((hugs)))) |
4/10/2017 |
Got four calls today about Matthew head butting others. Still planning on
visiting him tomorrow. |
4/11/2017 |
Screw it, I'm getting drunk tonight. |
4/12/2017 |
*IF* it is going to get better, it has to get better now. For the sake of
my sanity and my survival. It has to get better. Now. |
4/13/2017 |
At that point in the evening when the house is quiet and empty. I hate
it. #MissMyWife #MissMyChildren |
4/13/2017 |
Saw both of my kids this week. Wish I could do that every week. |
4/14/2017 |
We always watched Hawaii Five-O together. Now I get to watch it by
myself. sigh.... |
4/14/2017 |
Trying real hard not to cry. It's a battle I'm losing :'( |
4/15/2017 |
It would make my Easter if I heard from my wife today.... |
4/16/2017 |
Tired of crying. Would like to go one day without it. |
4/17/2017 |
I miss my wife so much.... |
4/17/2017 |
... and I am so tired of being sad |
4/17/2017 |
At my weekly therapy appointment this morning |
4/17/2017 |
I just want to go home and go to sleep for days |
4/17/2017 |
Please please please please please come home, I miss you
so much. |
4/17/2017 |
I talk about my current troubles a lot, I know. I don't really have other
outlets to express my feelings besides therapy appointments. |
4/17/2017 |
My wife was also my first girlfriend. I met her when I was 30. So
obviously I don't have much experience processing breakups. |
4/17/2017 |
I hate this! |
4/17/2017 |
I rely on social media because my best friends are on it. The human
flesh-and-blood friends I have only interact with me via social media. |
4/17/2017 |
If you look at my tweets and say "oh, WTF, not this again",
yeah, I get that feeling. Sorry but not sorry. |
4/17/2017 |
Sometimes a series of tweets can at least help me process some feeling
and get me to the point where I am not as sad. |
4/21/2017 |
Been a decent past three days, no weeping, but I still wonder what my
future holds for relationships. |
4/21/2017 |
I was with my wife for 20 years, she was my first girlfriend. Met her
when I was 30. So I don't have a huge track record. |
4/21/2017 |
If I thought meeting someone at 30 was tough, I'm 50 now. And damaged
goods. How do you fall in love again when you are 50? |
4/21/2017 |
Not that I'm looking to fall in love again. Too soon. I still want my
wife back. But that's not looking likely. |
4/23/2017 |
Finally climbing out of the hole. |
4/23/2017 |
I am not depressed today. In fact, I haven't been depressed for several
days. No, today I am mad. |
4/23/2017 |
I am mad that someone thinks so little of a 20-year relationship with me
that she would just take off from it without talking about it. |
4/23/2017 |
I am mad that I am left in limbo, that she can just leave when she wants
and come back (or not) when she wants, and not cluing me in. |
4/23/2017 |
I am mad that her friends are treating this like a high-school game.
"Oh, I've heard from her, but I'm not telling you anything!" |
4/23/2017 |
If I had done to her what she has done to me, I would be the enemy. But
she leaves, and it is all about her deciding what she wants. |
4/23/2017 |
My 20-year relationship has boiled down to a power play. Who has the
power to impose their will on the other? I hate that shit. |
4/23/2017 |
I was never the perfect husband. Never claimed to be. But in order for me
to make amends, I have to be able to contact her, not be cut off. |
4/23/2017 |
And if there are no amends to be made, I deserve to know that. None of
this "She will tell you when she decides she is ready." |
4/23/2017 |
OK, I am done whining. |
5/10/2017 |
I just realized that I have never broken up with anyone before. I don't
know how to do it. Better figure it out soon. |
5/12/2017 |
Just woke up after a dream about my wife . Second night in a row . Not a good development. |
5/13/2017 |
This whole "starting my life all over again" stuff? Yeah, I
don't like that. |
5/13/2017 |
I really wish I could wish my children's mother a happy Mother's Day. But
alas, a restraining order makes that impossible. |
5/13/2017 |
if you are in a relationship, and you see some cracks start to appear,
talk it out. With each other. |
5/14/2017 |
Going to see my psychiatrist tomorrow, therapist on Tuesday. Man do we
have things to talk about. |
5/14/2017 |
Don't really want to be single again, but the odds of me meeting someone
are slim to none and slim's out of town. |
5/14/2017 |
I don't want to be the one to file for divorce. Shit shit shit. |
5/15/2017 |
Divorce is really freaking complicated. Especially when your soon to be
ex-wife won't communicate. |
5/15/2017 |
I hate being alone in the house. I miss having someone here |
5/16/2017 |
Slowly separating our stuff into "his" and "hers"
piles. Found a tape of songs that we played on our honeymoon. Damn it all to
hell. |
5/17/2017 |
77 days since my world turned upside down. J ust when you think you have a
handle on things- BAM. Grieving over a relationship sucks. |
5/17/2017 |
Today has sucked royal |
5/17/2017 |
It hurts like hell to lose someone that you have loved so deeply for so
long. Sorry to keep bringing this up. |
5/18/2017 |
Pray, smoke a bowl, listen to Jefferson Airplane... whatever you do to
give off good vibes to people, I will take it tonight. Been rough. |
5/18/2017 |
damn this hurts like hell. why tonight? thought I was making some
headway, but I feel like I've been slugged in the gut with Negan's bat. |
5/18/2017 |
is heartbroken |
5/18/2017 |
Better day today. Sometimes you can handle depression, sometimes it
handles you. Like the business end of Negan's bat. |
5/20/2017 |
Had another person tell me that it is now time to live for myself. Still
trying to figure out how to do that. Spent 20 years living for her. |
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5/21/2017 |
'Cause I wished you the
best of
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All this world could give |
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And I told you when you left me |
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There's nothing to forgive |
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But I always thought you'd come back, tell me all you found was |
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Heartbreak and misery |
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It's hard for me to say, I'm jealous of the way |
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You're happy without me |
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---Labrinth, "Jealous" |